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Friday, March 06, 2009

Motherhood is Hard

A friend and I were recently talking about how hard the first few months of motherhood can be. She just recently gave birth to her little girl and being a mommy is quite new. "You told me it was going to be hard", she said, "I just didn't realize how hard it was going to be". It's so true! You don't realize how hard it is until you're living it. A million people can tell you that it's hard at first but you just can't imagine it. The wonderful thing is it gets easier!
I remember coming home from the hospital thinking that the worst was behind me. The labor and delivery had gone pretty well and I was feeling remarkably good. I didn't know that for me it was the easy part. The next month was going to be a learning experience like none I had gone through before.
Learning to nurse a newborn was one of the hardest experiences of my life. Many of my friends had gone through the same thing and I had listened to them talk about working through it. I wish I had really been able to understand at the time in order to prepare myself for what it was really like. It was hell, plain and simple. My hubby was so supportive but he thought we should consider a switch to formula. It's not that I'm against formula but all of the research I had done stated the numerous advantages of breastfeeding. I wanted the very best for my baby and to me that was not formula. To the lactation specialist we went, so much for nursing being cheaper.
Thank goodness for these lactation specialists. All of my friends had gone to the same woman, the "breastfeeding Nazi" she's been nicknamed by some, "a miracle worker" by others. I'll say maybe a little of both but if it hadn't been for her I probably would have lost my mind. Two sessions, phone calls, a few hundred dollars and a month later my little guy got the hang of it and life is much better.
I think one of the hardest things in the beginning is the complete and utter lack of sleep you get. I mean, who functions well waking up every two hours? I know I don't. Those first few months I was not a very pleasant person. There were many times I resented my little guy for waking up and then felt guilty for feeling so. He's gotten so much better now but it was quite a ride getting to where we are. Unfortunately his stuffy nose has made him regress in this area and we're back to waking up one or two times a night. Although, after living through getting almost no sleep four hours at a time seems like a gift.
Even though the first few months of motherhood may be the hardest thing I've every experienced it is by far the most rewarding. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I love that child more than I knew was feasible. I'm sure my husband agrees. It was quite an adventure for him as well. Thankfully I have the most supportive husband. He was up with me each and every time I got up those first few months until nursing was no longer a complete obstacle. I appreciate him more than I can ever express. I know he took a bit of a beating those first few months with the hormones, lack of sleep and overwhelming change but he was a trooper and I'm so glad I didn't have to do it without him.

HUGS for you!
being a mom is THE hardest thing ever. mine are now 4 and 5 and somedays are great and other days i feel so lost and alone and scared all over again. BUT, with the support of your husband and family and friends, and relying on the promise that God has given you a treasure, you will make it. im so glad to know john paul is feeding and sleeping better. i think one big issue is that we as moms dont really share all that we're feeling and we arent honest about how hard and scary it really, really is. when i had hegin, my oldest, i remember thinking that no one ever told me this or that or those things...and it would have been easier had someone told me. at least i wouldnt have felt so unworthy, like i was wrong for feeling this way. it's important that we share the burdens as well as the joys with our friends. your little man is adorable. im glad you are so happy!

By Anonymous chris-robin, at 1:24 PM  


Wow! Thanks for your very honest and insightful reflections. I enjoyed reading it. Please post more often so we can see more pics of John-Paul.

By Anonymous Danila, at 1:24 PM  

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Grand Cayman

We recently went on our first vacation with our little guy. We had been to Grand Cayman when I was six months pregnant and now we were returning with our son. It was a great vacation; much different than the previous one but still such a fantastic experience!

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Monday, January 19, 2009

Life has been a little busy....

Sarah, oh my goodness! You have a little one! He's a DOLL! How old is he? How are you feeling? I'm scared out of my wits when it comes to labor and delivery. How was yours? BP

By Anonymous Brooke, at 9:30 AM  

Wow! I thought that you were done blogging forever. Adorable picture!

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Wednesday, April 09, 2008

Almost Finished

The house is almost finished. We should be moving in within a month! I can't wait!

It looks great! I can't wait to see it in person! I love the color of the blue guest room, too!
love you!
(do ya think I used enough exclamation points?) :)

By Blogger Loretta, at 1:24 PM  

Who are you? are you someone?

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Monday, February 25, 2008

The house has walls!

very cool! so exciting--i can't wait to see it! we are trying to plan a longish trip for end of may/early june. maybe we can plan a road trip down there to see the new houseand stay for a day or two. :) (we're also trying to come in a month but i'm not sure that i'm up for a 14 hr. car trip with a 2 mo. old... i'll keep you updated.)

love, loretta

By Blogger Loretta, at 12:29 PM  

I think the porch is my favorite! I love it!

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Thursday, January 31, 2008

House Update

We did a video of the progress yesterday. I thought you might all be interested! It's coming along so quickly and we are very thankful for that. George Snead is amazing! If you're building in the area I highly recommend Snead Construction.

Very cool! Love it, especially the closets! Yu can never have closets that are too big lol!Can't wait to see it in person. When are you guys thinking you're going to move in??

love, loretta

By Blogger Loretta, at 12:24 PM  

Gorgeous! Such an awesome view too, I love that part of Forest. How great is God's provisions for you guys.

By Blogger KellyLee, at 8:53 AM  

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Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Shocked and Saddened

Me, too!! :( I kept thinking all last night after I heard about this about the time we went to see A Knight's Tale TWICE(!!) at the $1 movie theatre when I was visiting you one weekend. And of course all the other movies I loved him in. He seemed so "real" and "unhollywood".

So, so sad. I can't imagine what it must be like to have to explain what happened to his two-year old daughter.

By Blogger Loretta, at 12:22 PM  

Heath Ledger was always my "crush." Because, as the previous poster said, he was so "unhollywood."

I adore Heath Ledger, I appreciate his work, and I am saddened by his death.

I pray that his daughter can someday know her father through his work. How tragic!

By Anonymous Chris Robin Dawes, at 8:25 PM  

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Tuesday, January 08, 2008

A call to pray....

I've never met Tricia but my heart is overflowing for her. She is a brand new mommy, as of today, with a mountain in front of her. Please read her story here or here and begin to pray for Tricia, her baby, and her family.

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The Building Continues

As a friend recently put it, "sounds like you guys are staying busy". The holiday season was filled with parties and activities, all full of fun, but busy busy busy. Maybe one of these days I'll have the time to put up a picture post of our Christmas season. For now I'll just post a picture of the building process. It's coming along quickly and we're very thankful for that. The roof is mostly shingled and they will begin bricking this week. We love going over to see the progress being made. At this point we're picking out our bathroom vanities. Most decisions have been fairly easy. This one would probably be the same if John was not on the verge of pneumonia. For real. That was his diagnosis and he's been resting in bed for the last two days. Please pray that he gets through this and back to his high energy self soon!

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Monday, December 10, 2007

Worth Watching

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Wednesday, November 07, 2007

It has finally begun...

The house is finally in the process of being built. I'll be posting updates for all of you to see. We're so excited! Things should be going quickly so check back for updates!

Woo-hoo!! We're so excited for you!

These pictures are great. I've gotten so used to seeing the black soil out here that it was nice to see the red clay dirt of my youth. :)

I hope we'll have a chance to see each other when we head back home for the holiday. :)
dddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd (This is from Kieran for you. These are the letters he knows and can identify on a keyboard/sign/in a book/etc.)


By Blogger Loretta, at 11:29 AM  

Oh Sarah, that is so exciting! I'm so happy for you, and jealous! Your house is going to be beautiful! Congratulations!

By Anonymous Chris-Robin, at 11:36 AM  

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Thursday, October 11, 2007

In Eight Short Months

We will be moving into our new house within the next eight months. The papers are signed and the building is to begin within days. Thank you so much to all of you that helped us with input toward this huge decision. We're so excited. Please keep us in your prayers as we begin this process. I will be putting updates on the blog so that those of you far away will be able to see the progress.
The house will look much like the picture but no wrap around porch. I am amazed by the price of porches.

I just wrote you and said to make sure you posted things here so we could see about the new house and all and when I looked here, here this was! HA! It is beautiful and no I don't know the price of porches but maybe you can do a big wrap around porch later like add it on later if you still wanted one. I am just thrilled for you all. Congrats! Hopefully the next 8 months will go smoothly. Actually hopefully for both of us. :o)
Love ya!

By Anonymous PJ, at 9:40 AM  

SOOO SOOOO exciting!! Can't wait to hear all the details as the building progresses. It looks like you'll have plenty of room for visitors, too, even my big brood. (Although it helps that we all sleep in one bed at the moment...) :)

Oh, and you can always add a porch later if you want to, right? Maybe once the kids are all finished with college? ;)

Love you!

By Blogger Loretta, at 12:26 PM  

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